Here’s the thing. As mamas, we want to do it all. We want to believe we can do it all. Some of us do do it all. But let me ask you something: Is that really what life’s all about? I mean, really?
Yeah, it’s nice to see empty laundry baskets, and a deliciously healthy meal on the table that we’ve prepared, and the bed made (complete with fancy pillows), and the dust bunnies virtually nonexistent, and all the toys put away, and… sorry, I don’t mean to stress you out.
Yeah for sure, it’s great to see all of those things, but is it really possible to accomplish every single one of them and have quality time with your family? Hardly.
Maybe you’re superwoman and you’re like, actually yes it IS possible, Laura! And if that’s the case, well, kudos to you, m’lady, but I’d guess that most of us are not in the same boat.
Now, I don’t mean to be pessimistic (in truth, I’m an optimist through and through). However, my point is that being “perfect”, having all those things done, well, just isn’t the reality for most people. And that’s okay. Actually, that’s more than okay; that’s fantastic. Because that’s living, my friend!
I feel that the media shows us two types of moms: those who, like the above, do allll the things and then some, and then those who are batsh*t crazy. You can laugh, but I’m right though, no?
Well, I feel that somewhere in the middle there exists this imperfect, real, happy woman who gets lots (but not all) done, and who’s okay with that. She does what she can, when she can… and sometimes that means doing nothing, averting her eyes away from the piles of laundry, ordering in, and watching Netflix, because she is just done. Oh wait, that was me yesterday…
Listen, I am All. About. being on top on things, gettin’ ‘er done, and making sh*t happen. But I also know that when said sh*t hits the fan (in my brain, in the house, wherever), I need to STOP. I must stop and remind myself what is really important in life (and hint: it’s not cleaning every last dish in the sink). I need to slow my roll, sit down, and most importantly, avoid feeling guilty about it.
Because I’m only one person, as are you, and we can only do so much. Especially once we become mamas, we need to lower our expectations of what we can get done in a day, and be okay with that. Instead of looking at what we aren’t doing, we should be focused on what we are doing: spending time with our kid(s), making awesome memories, and being kick-ass moms.
Cheers to us. 🙂